Friday, 13 November 2015

Biological clock

In the year I turned 30, my husband and I decided to start a family. (Well, we actually decided to stop trying to not have a family - i.e. that I would stop taking The Pill and we'd see what happened...)

I had no idea at that point how much of my thirties would be dedicated to activities around starting a family and raising small children.

Over the past seven years, I have spent 21 months trying to conceive, 24 months pregnant and 26 months breastfeeding! That leaves only 13 months in which I wasn't actively pursuing our family plan.

During this time, I have been employed full time or part time and taken 28 months' maternity leave. More recently, I've added voluntary work into the mix.

Now, we have completed our family. We aspired to three children and we have two wonderful daughters and memories of our son.

Having invested so much of myself into building our family, the time has come for me to think about where I want to be by the end of my fourth decade. By the time I turn 40, my youngest daughter will be ready to start school and we'll move into a new phase of family life.

Tuesday, 3 November 2015

Would you know my name?

It's that time of the year, again.

Another year passed; another anniversary come.

Happy birthday, Monty xxx

I'm thinking of getting you a tree. Your big sister would like an apple tree. We could plant it at the arboretum and look at it each time we visit. We could have a plaque with your name and decorate it for you...
like we have decorated your rose bed in the front garden.

I think about you every day. I hold you close in my heart.

How is it that three years have passed?